Homosexuality was a crime in many states of Australia until May 13 1997, when Tasmania became the last state to decriminalise it. For the straight woman, he is a male friend that doesn’t expect more, a confidante, and just possibly the reason to become more involved in lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans (LGBT) activism. For the gay man, she has been protector, carer, cheerleader. It could be time to recast the moniker of “fag hag” as a badge of honour rather than a term of abuse.